Friday 31 January 2014

Advice for Parents Who are Divorcing

Put your children's needs first.
Accept that you have a responsibility to your children to do everything you can to ensure that the divorce doesn't cost them any more than it already has and that is absolutely necessary. Children don't have the voice and the ability to tell you what they think, so it is important to make their best interest your best interest. You have to be fiduciaries where you put their interest above your own. Take an honest look at yourself and what you're doing to impact these children. Tell your children that they are number one: "You're the most
important. You are first in everything that we think and do, and we're going to take care of you.





Start a new relationship.Don't think of the divorce as ending the relationship with your ex-spouse. Instead, think of it as beginning a new one. Your new relationship as divorced parents involves being co-allies, nurturers and protectors of your children. Consider going to post-marital counseling where you can create a parenting plan, resolve your differences and finish your emotional business, so you can clearly see what is in the best interest of these children. It's hard to be objective when there is so much emotion involved. Find a way to make your children feel that everywhere they turn they see love, support, and appreciation.

Communicate clearly with your children.
If communication is vague, children fill in the