Put your children's needs first.
Accept that you
have a responsibility to your children to do everything you can to
ensure that the divorce doesn't cost them any more than it already has
and that is absolutely necessary. Children don't have the voice and the
ability to tell you what they think, so it is important to make their
best interest your best interest. You have to be fiduciaries where you
put their interest above your own. Take an honest look at yourself and
what you're doing to impact these children. Tell your children that they
are number one: "You're the most
important. You are first in everything
that we think and do, and we're going to take care of you.
Start a new relationship.Don't think of the
divorce as ending the relationship with your ex-spouse. Instead, think
of it as beginning a new one. Your new relationship as divorced parents
involves being co-allies, nurturers and protectors of your children.
Consider going to post-marital counseling where you can create a
parenting plan, resolve your differences and finish your emotional
business, so you can clearly see what is in the best interest of these
children. It's hard to be objective when there is so much emotion
involved. Find a way to make your children feel that everywhere they
turn they see love, support, and appreciation.
Communicate clearly with your children.
If
communication is vague, children fill in the