It happens on streets, in cars, in schools, in parks, and in
alleys. The rapist has no regard for age, race, or social status. Rape
is not a selective crime. It is in most cases, random. Personal safety,
however, must begin with the individual. Help protect yourself by taking
the steps to protect yourself from sexual assault.
Safety at Home
Replace
or re-key locks when you move into a new home or apartment. Install a
door viewer and a 1-inch deadbolt lock and use them. Look before opening
your door to anyone.
Keep doors locked at all times and instruct children never open your door to anyone.
Require
all strangers to show identification. If you haven't called for a
repairman, don't let one inside. Leave him waiting outside and call his
place of business to
I
am killer. I’m a heart-breaker. I’m a tease and a flirt. I ruin lives. I
will destroy you in the blink of an eye and once you’re hooked, you
can’t escape. Yes, you can walk away, but you’ll never forget me. I’ll
always be with you, in the back of your mind. I’m the girl you compare
all other girls to. I give you everything you want and then I tear it
all away along with a chunk of your heart.
From
the first “hello” we exchange, there is no going back. I could be with
you for a night or for a year; the connection I make you believe we have
is all the same. I’ll be the one that got away, but you never really
had me. I gave you that fantasy, an illusion, false hope. I saw that I
could make you happy for a short amount of time, and seeing you happy
made me happy.
But then I get scared. I want commitment,
but I’m too afraid to grasp it. And for that, you will pay. You’ll
wonder what you did wrong, why you couldn’t keep my
interest. Most
likely, you did nothing wrong. You showed interest in a girl. Maybe you
were looking for a one-night stand, or maybe you were looking for
something more, and there is nothing wrong with any of that. Except you
thought you could find what you were looking for in me—and you were
wrong.
The one-night stands end up wanting my
commitment, but they won’t get to have it. The ones that want commitment
end up with disappointment and shattered self-esteem. I will hurt you
at your most vulnerable level. I will take your naked body and use if
for my own pleasure, leave you wanting more physically and emotionally,
and then just leave. Sex is just sex for me. I can’t remember the last
time I honestly made love to a man.
I guess I am emotionally unavailable. I
made that decision on purpose, after I was tired of being hurt. But now I
feel nothing. I am so numb and the walls I have built are too high.
I’ve isolated myself against guys like you—guys that don’t deserve to be
hurt just because they made the mistake of crossing my path.
I am manipulative. I will make you believe
that I want you more than anyone ever has and I will make you believe
you have finally found what you are looking for, whatever that may be. I
call myself independent, but maybe I’m just cold. Perhaps I’ve let my
bad experiences dictate my thoughts and feelings. I might never know.
You will absolutely never know, because I will never be vulnerable
enough in front of you to figure it out.
I
will not talk about my feelings and I will not communicate with you
because I don’t want to get hurt. But most of all, I do not want to hurt
you. So I make sure that you leave me. I’ll ignore you, I’ll tell you
I’m talking to someone else, anything to make you leave me. You’ll be
upset for a little while, but at least you’re not with me. That way I
can’t keep on hurting you. I feel like I’m doing you a favor.
Sometimes we stay friends, sometimes we
never talk again. But I’ll be there. Even though I tried to do the right
thing in the end, my initial intentions were not pure. I wanted to get
what I wanted, and I did. But I feel guilty about the pain I’ve caused
you so I try to make it right.
So to those poor guys that have
encountered me, I am sorry. You didn’t know what you were walking into
at the time. I hope you at least learned to watch out for girls like me
and learned a little more about yourselves in the process. Good luck to
you guys in the future you’re going to need it.
I’ve seen some of the best guys lose a girl because they’re too
scared to pursue her. The fear can be so strong that even if the girl is
interested, he still loses her because he’s focused on his own
inadequacies. As a good guy, take the
When we talk about attraction, we are not talking about lust (which is
also a form of attraction). A man can be physically attracted to a
woman, without any feelings of love, and this form of attraction is
purely primal and is focused completely on the "body" of the woman
involved. What we are talking about, in this article, is the attraction
which is synonymous with love. Relationships are built on a love based
attraction, so what's important would be know the traits in a woman,
that men find most attractive, which makes them fall in love.
Traits Men Find Attractive in a Woman
The following are some of the traits that guys find attractive in women.
The list in not in any particular order of preference, and it can be
assumed that the 10 factors make an impact in unison.
Soft heartedness
Men are more likely to fall in love with a woman who is soft, or warm,
hearted, than a woman who is cold. Guys love to be mothered (not nagged
but cared for), and so they tend to fall for a woman who offers them
acceptance and warmth. This would have to be the
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Many women dream of that special day. You know the one, where all of
the attention is on her in that gorgeous white dress. The flowers, the
decorations, the fancy cars and let’s not forget, her Prince Charming.
Most women have an idea of what age they will be when Mr. Right asks
her to spend the rest of her life with him. She has the colors picked
out, the ideal season, the wedding party and even the guest list! To
many women, the wedding day is the turning point in her life that will
lead to her happily ever after. Many of us have focused (let’s be
honest) so much time and thought on the wedding and the marriage that we
have never spent enough time and energy on the most important
part”…preparing to become a wife!
I too used to get excited about getting married, having a family and
living the fairy tale princess life. But then it happened; reality hit
me smack in
Do you remember the last time you did something to make your wife
feel special? When you married the woman of your dreams, you not only
gained a friend and a lover for life, but a confidante, a helpmate and a
caregiver. She is someone you know will steady you when you are
faltering and will go all out to cheer you up, when you are feeling low.
She is the mother of your kids.
So, do something special to make your wife feel glad that she married
you. Whether you are a brand new husband eager to make her the happiest
bride, or a long-wedded spouse wishing to rediscover the fun-loving
girl you married, here are some infallible ways to make your wife
happy.
Write a romantic letter. Love letters written by hand never go out
of fashion. Put your most romantic thoughts on paper, preferably
perfumed, and
I’ve been getting into it recently with some readers who have a
slightly different take on when people should get engaged. Hey,
different strokes for different folks.
One reader onmy Facebook page wrote: “When a man’s in love he wants to propose as soon as he can.”
Needless to say, I disagree with that. Wait. It’s not that I disagree
with that. There are MANY men who propose as soon as they can when
they’re in love. But are they making the
I saw a funny thing today on Facebook which said, “Men: If you ever
wanna know what a woman’s mind feels like, imagine a browser with 2,857
tabs open. All. The. Time.” And while that crazy tendency to think,
imagine, create, obsess, worry over a thousand things all at the same
time can be true at many times of any given day in my own life, women
are, I believe, actually quite simple to please at heart.
Ultimately, like Damien points out in the introduction to his own
post, each of us are just another human being “wanting to know that I am
safe, that I am appreciated and
How
can you tell that you are in a highly cherished relationship? Usually,
the signs are pretty obvious. Read the 12 pointers below that will
confirm if you are on the right track. If you cannot tick off all these,
then there might be some repair-work to be done!
What do we mean by cherished?
“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.” – Oscar Wilde
Most
marriage or partnership ceremonies mention the word ‘cherish.’ The best
definition of the word ‘cherished’ is ‘nurtured.’ Think of a plant
which needs water, sunshine, and a bit of tender loving care. Just do
that today and every day. The plant or relationship will grow and
flourish as