How and where to find a good partner to marry

Finding a life partner is a significant and deeply personal journey that involves compatibility, shared values, and emotional connection. While there's no one-size-fits-all approach, there are certain aspects to consider when looking for a good partner to marry. It's important to approach this search with patience, introspection, and an understanding that relationships are built on mutual respect, trust, and communication. So many people are in sore regret now. Read this post patiently and carefully.

Firstly, self-awareness is crucial. Before seeking a partner, take the time to understand yourself—your interests, values, and long-term goals.

Why some men are not married

There are many reasons why some men may not want to get married. Some of the common reasons include:

1. Fear of commitment: Some men may be afraid of the commitment and responsibility that comes with marriage, especially if they have seen negative examples of marriage in their families or among their friends.

How to plan your wedding program effectively

1. Set a budget: Determine how much you are willing to spend on your wedding and stick to it. This will help you plan effectively and make sure you don't overspend. Before you were born, people have been doing wedding; yours won't be the best and neither will it be the worst.

2. Choose a venue: Decide on the location of your wedding ceremony and reception. This will help you plan the other aspects of your wedding, such as catering, decor, and transportation. Is it within the state, outside the state, outdoor or indoor?

3. Choose a wedding planner: Hire a professional wedding planner to help you plan and organize your wedding. They will take care of all the details and make sure everything runs smoothly on your big day. Nevertheless, you need to be careful. Some event planners are destroyers. Don't make mountains from mole hills. Don't let any event planner that can't manage his/her own family push you into slow-motion-debts after the wedding. In either ways, wisdom is profitable to guide and direct.

4. Choose your wedding party: Decide on your bridal party, including your bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girls, and ring bearers. Make a list of them. Inform them ahead. If they can't pay for the attires at once, let them start making the payment little by little. During my own wedding, it was my wife that taught me that method. Infact, some of the guys paid as low as two hundred naira per day. Don't be mad at them; it's you that requested their attention/presence.

5. Choose your vendors: Select the vendors you will be using for your wedding, such as a caterer, florist, DJ, and photographer. If you can pay for a photo book, fine ! Collect the whole soft copies of your pictures from the photographer. You can easily walk into a photo lab and pay less to frame your pictures and produce your photo book. If editing your videos is too expensive, guy... collect the raw videos with your flash drive; save them on your laptop or connect the flash drive to your plasma tv and enjoy.

Also read: Why some men are not married

6. Create a schedule: Create a timeline for your wedding day, including the ceremony, reception, and any other events you have planned. This will help you plan effectively and make sure everything runs smoothly. Decide whether to have an indoor or outdoor reception.

7. Send out invitations: Send out your wedding invitations to your guests at least six weeks before your wedding. This will give them enough time to RSVP and make any necessary arrangements. The earlier the better ! But be careful...don't share the invite too early to some people (you get it?) without serious prayers.

8. Plan for transportation: Arrange for transportation for your wedding party and guests, if needed. Most times, if they love you, they should be able to chatter vehicles to grace your occasion from their own pocket. What are friends or family for?

But hope you too do attend other people's weddings ooo? 

9. Plan for accommodation: Arrange for accommodation for your wedding party and any out-of-town guests. Meet any of the old hearted men in your areas; beg them to allow your guests sleep over in any of their spare rooms...if you can't afford to secure hotel rooms. You may need to buy mosquito nets or wash existing ones and give your guests to use. It won't be funny, if they have malaria after attending your wedding program. They may not be happy with you.

10. Make a list of things to do: Make a list of all the things you need to do before your wedding and make sure they are completed on time. 

Remember...

Never you borrow or take loan to finance your wedding. Don't create patient problems for yourself and your innocent wife after the wedding. It's called wedding program not marriage. Marriage lasts till your last breath but the wedding program perhaps lasts a couple of days.

Feel free to comment below or add your own points to the list. Thank you.

Some Safety Measures Against Rape

       

It happens on streets, in cars, in schools, in parks, and in alleys. The rapist has no regard for age, race, or social status. Rape is not a selective crime. It is in most cases, random. Personal safety, however, must begin with the individual. Help protect yourself by taking the steps to protect yourself from sexual assault.

Safety at Home

• Replace or re-key locks when you move into a new home or apartment. Install a door viewer and a 1-inch deadbolt lock and use them. Look before opening your door to anyone.
• Keep doors locked at all times and instruct children never open your door to anyone.
• Require all strangers to show identification. If you haven't called for a repairman, don't let one inside. Leave him waiting outside and call his place of business to

This Is How I Destroy Men...!

      

I am killer. I’m a heart-breaker. I’m a tease and a flirt. I ruin lives. I will destroy you in the blink of an eye and once you’re hooked, you can’t escape. Yes, you can walk away, but you’ll never forget me. I’ll always be with you, in the back of your mind. I’m the girl you compare all other girls to. I give you everything you want and then I tear it all away along with a chunk of your heart.

From the first “hello” we exchange, there is no going back. I could be with you for a night or for a year; the connection I make you believe we have is all the same. I’ll be the one that got away, but you never really had me. I gave you that fantasy, an illusion, false hope. I saw that I could make you happy for a short amount of time, and seeing you happy made me happy.

But then I get scared. I want commitment, but I’m too afraid to grasp it. And for that, you will pay. You’ll wonder what you did wrong, why you couldn’t keep my
interest. Most likely, you did nothing wrong. You showed interest in a girl. Maybe you were looking for a one-night stand, or maybe you were looking for something more, and there is nothing wrong with any of that. Except you thought you could find what you were looking for in me—and you were wrong.

The one-night stands end up wanting my commitment, but they won’t get to have it. The ones that want commitment end up with disappointment and shattered self-esteem. I will hurt you at your most vulnerable level. I will take your naked body and use if for my own pleasure, leave you wanting more physically and emotionally, and then just leave. Sex is just sex for me. I can’t remember the last time I honestly made love to a man.

I guess I am emotionally unavailable. I made that decision on purpose, after I was tired of being hurt. But now I feel nothing. I am so numb and the walls I have built are too high. I’ve isolated myself against guys like you—guys that don’t deserve to be hurt just because they made the mistake of crossing my path.

I am manipulative. I will make you believe that I want you more than anyone ever has and I will make you believe you have finally found what you are looking for, whatever that may be. I call myself independent, but maybe I’m just cold. Perhaps I’ve let my bad experiences dictate my thoughts and feelings. I might never know. You will absolutely never know, because I will never be vulnerable enough in front of you to figure it out.

I will not talk about my feelings and I will not communicate with you because I don’t want to get hurt. But most of all, I do not want to hurt you. So I make sure that you leave me. I’ll ignore you, I’ll tell you I’m talking to someone else, anything to make you leave me. You’ll be upset for a little while, but at least you’re not with me. That way I can’t keep on hurting you. I feel like I’m doing you a favor.

Sometimes we stay friends, sometimes we never talk again. But I’ll be there. Even though I tried to do the right thing in the end, my initial intentions were not pure. I wanted to get what I wanted, and I did. But I feel guilty about the pain I’ve caused you so I try to make it right.

So to those poor guys that have encountered me, I am sorry. You didn’t know what you were walking into at the time. I hope you at least learned to watch out for girls like me and learned a little more about yourselves in the process. Good luck to you guys in the future you’re going to need it.


                                                                         By Cali Richards

26 reasons why you should not beat your wife

                        
1. It is against the law of God, it is unscriptural.
2. It is a sign of weakness.
3. It is a sign of immaturity.

How to Get Over the Fear of Rejection and Get the Girl?

                                
I’ve seen some of the best guys lose a girl because they’re too scared to pursue her. The fear can be so strong that even if the girl is interested, he still loses her because he’s focused on his own inadequacies. As a good guy, take the

10 Traits Men Find Attractive in a Woman

                                                                                When we talk about attraction, we are not talking about lust (which is also a form of attraction). A man can be physically attracted to a woman, without any feelings of love, and this form of attraction is purely primal and is focused completely on the "body" of the woman involved. What we are talking about, in this article, is the attraction which is synonymous with love. Relationships are built on a love based attraction, so what's important would be know the traits in a woman, that men find most attractive, which makes them fall in love.

Traits Men Find Attractive in a Woman

The following are some of the traits that guys find attractive in women. The list in not in any particular order of preference, and it can be assumed that the 10 factors make an impact in unison.

Soft heartedness

Men are more likely to fall in love with a woman who is soft, or warm, hearted, than a woman who is cold. Guys love to be mothered (not nagged but cared for), and so they tend to fall for a woman who offers them acceptance and warmth. This would have to be the

Preparing To Become A Wife: 10 Tips For Pretty ladies out there

I got this piece from my godly sister...I think you will like it. Please do comment to know your view as regard this post. Thanks
                                       
Many women dream of that special day. You know the one, where all of the attention is on her in that gorgeous white dress. The flowers, the decorations, the fancy cars and let’s not forget, her Prince Charming.
Most women have an idea of what age they will be when Mr. Right asks her to spend the rest of her life with him. She has the colors picked out, the ideal season, the wedding party and even the guest list! To many women, the wedding day is the turning point in her life that will lead to her happily ever after. Many of us have focused (let’s be honest) so much time and thought on the wedding and the marriage that we have never spent enough time and energy on the most important part”…preparing to become a wife!
I too used to get excited about getting married, having a family and living the fairy tale princess life. But then it happened; reality hit me smack in

50 Ways to Make your Wife Happy

                                      
Do you remember the last time you did something to make your wife feel special? When you married the woman of your dreams, you not only gained a friend and a lover for life, but a confidante, a helpmate and a caregiver. She is someone you know will steady you when you are faltering and will go all out to cheer you up, when you are feeling low. She is the mother of your kids.
So, do something special to make your wife feel glad that she married you. Whether you are a brand new husband eager to make her the happiest bride, or a long-wedded spouse wishing to rediscover the fun-loving girl you married, here are some infallible ways to make your wife happy. 

1. Write a romantic letter. Love letters written by hand never go out of fashion. Put your most romantic thoughts on paper, preferably perfumed, and