How to Settle an Argument With Your Love

Steps

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   Remain calm. This is the biggest step. You never want an argument to turn into something abusive. Remember that raising your voice is different than yelling. If you get to the point where you are yelling, think to yourself that this could escalate to a dangerous point.
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   State your point. Try to get your point across simply. Try not to use any attitude, otherwise this could anger the other side. A big thing to remember is to try and not use guilt trips to try and "win" a fight. Get your point across in a clear, concise manner and try to explain to the other side how what they are doing makes you feel.
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   Listen to their opinion. This step and the previous are interchangeable. An argument should be like a conversation, if the other starts first, don't interrupt. If you have questions or anything, don't interject, wait until they are finished. If you find yourself getting angry, remind yourself that you will be able to talk soon and get it all out. If you need to get it out soon, apologize and tell them the main point of what is bothering you.
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   Apologize. Make up, in other terms. Even if you think you are right no matter what, make sure you tell them you are sorry, because you are most likely to be at fault for something.
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   Cool off. Separate from the other for some time to reflect on what just happened. Usually during this time, both sides discover that they were fighting for something entirely unrelated to anything, and it was just a stupid fight. Regroup later and try not to drudge up the fight.
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   Forgive. This is a really big step, and it takes a lot of people a long time to do this. You really do need to "forgive and forget". Keeping a fight on your mind for too long will only cause you more distress and heartache
   Tips

• If you feel your anger escalating out of control, LEAVE IMMEDIATELY, and possibly talk to the other person later
• Try and remember that family and friends are really precious, and losing them over a small fight could be a big mistake
• Don't let your anger get the best of you
• Take a deep breath, this may give you time to think before you speak.
• Don't get in an argument to show off for someone
• Don't allow yourself to hit anybody