Ladies: how to keep your man and win his heart

I have seen relationship and courtship of more than five years dissolved. And most times, ladies feel the pain more because they have soft mind and when they give their trust to any man, they give it in entirety. That's why every lady should be circumspect; good, faithful and true-loving men are as scarce as cash these days. Some of the guys on campuses may claim to be caring. Hummm... infatuation coats their genuine love; they are mostly after tasting the meal and testing the soft engine.

However, if you've gotten a staunch guy or still on waiting for the man, I have some tips that can sincerely help you keep your relationship and live happily.

Listen, happiness is the key.

Most of us are after earning 1st, 2nd or 3rd degree to get well paid jobs and earn happiness. It may not work like that.

Most times, our parents fail to tell us the real truth that we need to start preparing for marriage/our own family early in life as we work towards achieving our goals and careers. 

A failed marriage doesn't respect your educational status or academic degrees. I have seen Professors and Medical doctors indulging in wife battery; Pastors and Imams are not Angels; being well informed, being very patient and careful and being prayerful are the keys.

The qualities that make someone a good spouse are subjective and can vary from person to person. However, some traits that are generally considered positive include:

1. Communication skills: Being able to effectively communicate and listen to your partner is essential for a healthy relationship. Sincere communication works wonders in any relationship.

2. Emotional intelligence: The ability to understand and regulate your own emotions as well as your partner's. We have different backgrounds. We were brought up in different environments. We hold different beliefs. We must learn how to tolerate each other. Never play on anyone's emotions and intelligence. Resuscitate your conscience; do have human feeling.

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3. Compassion and empathy: Being able to put yourself in your partner's shoes and show understanding and care towards their feelings and needs. Please don't be stingy; don't be selfish. Be open handed in cash and kind.

4. Trust and honesty: Building and maintaining trust is crucial for a long-lasting relationship. In fact, it gives one peace and rest of mind.

5. Flexibility and adaptability: Being able to adapt to changes and new circumstances in a relationship can help to keep it strong.

Don't be stiff-necked. Be resilient to be corrected. No one is perfect. Never argue over any issue that "I'm sorry" can easily settle.

6. Supportiveness: Being a supportive partner and standing by each other through both good and bad times. So long the graph of life is sinusoidal; it goes up and down. We should always be there for each other.

7. Independence: Maintaining your own interests, goals, and identity while also being a dedicated and loving partner. I have seen some simple and naive ladies that frequent their guy's house everyday...for what? Hummm... don't wake the sleeping devil, please. Seeing each other everyday doesn't accumulate or increase love. It only breeds some romantic fantasies that may culminate in regrets.

8. Respect: Treating your partner with respect, dignity, and kindness. Don't call him/her in public the way you call your students or younger ones. Did you understand that? Okay.

9. Neatness and hygiene: It's not an overstatement that most ladies don't know how take care of themselves. They are robbed by halitosis. They may know (or may not know) that they have body odour. They pile up used clothes till weekend. They look unkempt and cry a lot when their man leaves them. Who want to marry or stay with a lady that can't smile and show her teeth in the public?

10. Be a better cook: The road to the heart of most men is better food (not kitchen and not only good food)...hope you grabbed that. Must every better food be prepared in kitchen? Although you must be ardroit at preparing sophisticated meals and delicacies for your man. Let the food be better than the ones he procures out there. In fact, let it be better than his mother's food. Don't let him for once, miss his mother's delicacy. So, if you're not good in kitchen, or in furnishing better meals, it's not late. Start now !

Also read: Why some men don't want to marry

11. Godliness: A lady that's not a prayer warrior may not eventually become a warrior in her husband's parlour. God is over every situation. Whatever you want for your family and the way you want God to work in your home should be well communicated to God in prayers.

Don't just sleep from 7 to 7; learn how to intercede for yourself and your man.

It's important to note that being a good spouse also involves being open to growth and self-improvement, and being willing to work on the relationship.

May peace and happiness never ceased in our home.