What lessons have you learned in life?

Don't always assume that everyone should offer you help. If they truly do, great! 

If they don't, still respect their reasons... 

Learn from every situation and circumstance that the vicissitudes of life push at you. 

Your prayers are answered... just that God fix the answers to some page of your life where it shows reflection of His apt plan for you... 

Remember... there abound everywhere, people that have interest in listening to your stories... they're really ready to empathize... 

Be careful... not all of them would offer you help... they only listen to the stories covered from the pages of your pain just to have their pastime.

Ladies: how to keep your man and win his heart

I have seen relationship and courtship of more than five years dissolved. And most times, ladies feel the pain more because they have soft mind and when they give their trust to any man, they give it in entirety. That's why every lady should be circumspect; good, faithful and true-loving men are as scarce as cash these days. Some of the guys on campuses may claim to be caring. Hummm... infatuation coats their genuine love; they are mostly after tasting the meal and testing the soft engine.

However, if you've gotten a staunch guy or still on waiting for the man, I have some tips that can sincerely help you keep your relationship and live happily.

Dangers of Children Staying Late at School

Last week, around some minutes past six in the twilight, I saw some school buses conveying learners to their destinations. I actually stood agape; I saw the poor learners already asleep inside the buses.

Then, I started asking myself some questions: do these kids really have parents who miss them and want them around? Do the parents really think they're helping them by folding arms and seeing them coming home late in the night already exhausted? Is this action/attitude really helpful to nurturing our future leaders intellectually and psychologically?

Getting home late or being conveyed home late by the school bus can be detrimental to students' performance because it disrupts their sleep schedule. A lack of sleep can lead to physical and mental fatigue, which in turn can negatively impact focus, attention, and memory.

How and where to find a good partner to marry

Finding a life partner is a significant and deeply personal journey that involves compatibility, shared values, and emotional connection. While there's no one-size-fits-all approach, there are certain aspects to consider when looking for a good partner to marry. It's important to approach this search with patience, introspection, and an understanding that relationships are built on mutual respect, trust, and communication. So many people are in sore regret now. Read this post patiently and carefully.

Firstly, self-awareness is crucial. Before seeking a partner, take the time to understand yourself—your interests, values, and long-term goals.

Why some men are not married

There are many reasons why some men may not want to get married. Some of the common reasons include:

1. Fear of commitment: Some men may be afraid of the commitment and responsibility that comes with marriage, especially if they have seen negative examples of marriage in their families or among their friends.

How to plan your wedding program effectively

1. Set a budget: Determine how much you are willing to spend on your wedding and stick to it. This will help you plan effectively and make sure you don't overspend. Before you were born, people have been doing wedding; yours won't be the best and neither will it be the worst.

2. Choose a venue: Decide on the location of your wedding ceremony and reception. This will help you plan the other aspects of your wedding, such as catering, decor, and transportation. Is it within the state, outside the state, outdoor or indoor?

3. Choose a wedding planner: Hire a professional wedding planner to help you plan and organize your wedding. They will take care of all the details and make sure everything runs smoothly on your big day. Nevertheless, you need to be careful. Some event planners are destroyers. Don't make mountains from mole hills. Don't let any event planner that can't manage his/her own family push you into slow-motion-debts after the wedding. In either ways, wisdom is profitable to guide and direct.

4. Choose your wedding party: Decide on your bridal party, including your bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girls, and ring bearers. Make a list of them. Inform them ahead. If they can't pay for the attires at once, let them start making the payment little by little. During my own wedding, it was my wife that taught me that method. Infact, some of the guys paid as low as two hundred naira per day. Don't be mad at them; it's you that requested their attention/presence.

5. Choose your vendors: Select the vendors you will be using for your wedding, such as a caterer, florist, DJ, and photographer. If you can pay for a photo book, fine ! Collect the whole soft copies of your pictures from the photographer. You can easily walk into a photo lab and pay less to frame your pictures and produce your photo book. If editing your videos is too expensive, guy... collect the raw videos with your flash drive; save them on your laptop or connect the flash drive to your plasma tv and enjoy.

Also read: Why some men are not married

6. Create a schedule: Create a timeline for your wedding day, including the ceremony, reception, and any other events you have planned. This will help you plan effectively and make sure everything runs smoothly. Decide whether to have an indoor or outdoor reception.

7. Send out invitations: Send out your wedding invitations to your guests at least six weeks before your wedding. This will give them enough time to RSVP and make any necessary arrangements. The earlier the better ! But be careful...don't share the invite too early to some people (you get it?) without serious prayers.

8. Plan for transportation: Arrange for transportation for your wedding party and guests, if needed. Most times, if they love you, they should be able to chatter vehicles to grace your occasion from their own pocket. What are friends or family for?

But hope you too do attend other people's weddings ooo? 

9. Plan for accommodation: Arrange for accommodation for your wedding party and any out-of-town guests. Meet any of the old hearted men in your areas; beg them to allow your guests sleep over in any of their spare rooms...if you can't afford to secure hotel rooms. You may need to buy mosquito nets or wash existing ones and give your guests to use. It won't be funny, if they have malaria after attending your wedding program. They may not be happy with you.

10. Make a list of things to do: Make a list of all the things you need to do before your wedding and make sure they are completed on time. 

Remember...

Never you borrow or take loan to finance your wedding. Don't create patient problems for yourself and your innocent wife after the wedding. It's called wedding program not marriage. Marriage lasts till your last breath but the wedding program perhaps lasts a couple of days.

Feel free to comment below or add your own points to the list. Thank you.

Some Safety Measures Against Rape

       

It happens on streets, in cars, in schools, in parks, and in alleys. The rapist has no regard for age, race, or social status. Rape is not a selective crime. It is in most cases, random. Personal safety, however, must begin with the individual. Help protect yourself by taking the steps to protect yourself from sexual assault.

Safety at Home

• Replace or re-key locks when you move into a new home or apartment. Install a door viewer and a 1-inch deadbolt lock and use them. Look before opening your door to anyone.
• Keep doors locked at all times and instruct children never open your door to anyone.
• Require all strangers to show identification. If you haven't called for a repairman, don't let one inside. Leave him waiting outside and call his place of business to

This Is How I Destroy Men...!

      

I am killer. I’m a heart-breaker. I’m a tease and a flirt. I ruin lives. I will destroy you in the blink of an eye and once you’re hooked, you can’t escape. Yes, you can walk away, but you’ll never forget me. I’ll always be with you, in the back of your mind. I’m the girl you compare all other girls to. I give you everything you want and then I tear it all away along with a chunk of your heart.

From the first “hello” we exchange, there is no going back. I could be with you for a night or for a year; the connection I make you believe we have is all the same. I’ll be the one that got away, but you never really had me. I gave you that fantasy, an illusion, false hope. I saw that I could make you happy for a short amount of time, and seeing you happy made me happy.

But then I get scared. I want commitment, but I’m too afraid to grasp it. And for that, you will pay. You’ll wonder what you did wrong, why you couldn’t keep my
interest. Most likely, you did nothing wrong. You showed interest in a girl. Maybe you were looking for a one-night stand, or maybe you were looking for something more, and there is nothing wrong with any of that. Except you thought you could find what you were looking for in me—and you were wrong.

The one-night stands end up wanting my commitment, but they won’t get to have it. The ones that want commitment end up with disappointment and shattered self-esteem. I will hurt you at your most vulnerable level. I will take your naked body and use if for my own pleasure, leave you wanting more physically and emotionally, and then just leave. Sex is just sex for me. I can’t remember the last time I honestly made love to a man.

I guess I am emotionally unavailable. I made that decision on purpose, after I was tired of being hurt. But now I feel nothing. I am so numb and the walls I have built are too high. I’ve isolated myself against guys like you—guys that don’t deserve to be hurt just because they made the mistake of crossing my path.

I am manipulative. I will make you believe that I want you more than anyone ever has and I will make you believe you have finally found what you are looking for, whatever that may be. I call myself independent, but maybe I’m just cold. Perhaps I’ve let my bad experiences dictate my thoughts and feelings. I might never know. You will absolutely never know, because I will never be vulnerable enough in front of you to figure it out.

I will not talk about my feelings and I will not communicate with you because I don’t want to get hurt. But most of all, I do not want to hurt you. So I make sure that you leave me. I’ll ignore you, I’ll tell you I’m talking to someone else, anything to make you leave me. You’ll be upset for a little while, but at least you’re not with me. That way I can’t keep on hurting you. I feel like I’m doing you a favor.

Sometimes we stay friends, sometimes we never talk again. But I’ll be there. Even though I tried to do the right thing in the end, my initial intentions were not pure. I wanted to get what I wanted, and I did. But I feel guilty about the pain I’ve caused you so I try to make it right.

So to those poor guys that have encountered me, I am sorry. You didn’t know what you were walking into at the time. I hope you at least learned to watch out for girls like me and learned a little more about yourselves in the process. Good luck to you guys in the future you’re going to need it.


                                                                         By Cali Richards

26 reasons why you should not beat your wife

                        
1. It is against the law of God, it is unscriptural.
2. It is a sign of weakness.
3. It is a sign of immaturity.

How to Get Over the Fear of Rejection and Get the Girl?

                                
I’ve seen some of the best guys lose a girl because they’re too scared to pursue her. The fear can be so strong that even if the girl is interested, he still loses her because he’s focused on his own inadequacies. As a good guy, take the